2013 IN PHOTO REVIEW

2013 was a good year with ordinary moments and fun! From a trip to Niagara-

to winter images on my street in December.

Fun at the Ex in Toronto!

To fresh produce from many market and farm outings during the summer and fall.

To a new addition to the family. Reviewing many photo images of the year, reminds me of the moments that were enjoyed. Nothing over the top, nothing amazing, nothing larger than life-but just life. Moments in time! To end the year with a roof over my head-there were some bad weather moments, family intact from coast to coast, some money in the bank to pay the bills, and projects waiting to be finished gives encouragement and hope for the year to come. Many people thought with the 13 in the year it was ominous! How was your year? Do you have photo images to share? A picture does speak a thousand words! Go ahead and share!

LIFE IS LIKE THE AFTERMATH OF AN ICE STORM WITH THE ICE ON THE BRANCHES MELTING EVENTUALLY

The ice storm gave some moments of reflection. Many areas with tall trees with large branchers snapped off  them, looked like a mini war zone! Tops of trees bent over. The fear that more snow or wind would topple the trees completely. Hanging on! People being very careful not to walk under the trees for fear of another branch crashing! Then on Saturday, warmer temperatutres brought some melting. Hearing the crackle and bits of ice falling everywhere. The trees and the branches started to recover and become tall again. Like life-we all have ice storms and some parts of us can break never to recover. Some parts laden with ice just keep holding on until the crisis passes. Times in our lives where we are dealing with a job loss-finances become a nightmare; watching a loved one die-our hearts are broken; children leaving home-the empty nest or health problem-waiting for the answer after diagnostics. Well the list of life could go one. It can feel like a terrible storm has struck us. As I watched the various trees and bushes in and around my house recovering slowly as the ice melted, a warmth returned to me. The broken branches will be cleared away to make the paths safe again. Spring will let us know how well the vegetation really fared! Life can many storms. How we weather our personal storms allow us to be human! Some people do succumb to one broken branch! Others cut the whole tree down hopping new shoots will come from the base and go on! Life is a tree with branches, a trunk and roots! I reflected on how many "personal storms" I have experienced in my life. Starting in childhood to the last few years! Yes I have several broken branches-dreams not met but other parts of my tree are flourishing with the realization I am not sure how tall it will become. The seeds from my tree have flown with the wind so I am never sure what impact in life they have made. One thing I do know is that life does go on! The choice is-do you stay stopped in your tracks or do you pick yourself up and just keep growing!! How is your tree of life doing? Are you weathering your own personal storm right now? Can you wait until your ice melts and frees you up again?

CHRISTMAS 2013 REFLECTIONS

Christmas was festive and fun! A time to have family eat and enjoy too much food! A time to count our blessings and be glad we were together! A time to remember those no longer with us or who live far away and could not be with us! A day of little children running around and no wanting to eat the special meal but their usual daily food! A dessert table laden with Christmas cakes and cookies and one grandson wanting the simple packaged ones Nana always gives him!! A day to use as the culmination of all the preparations that went into the big event! Using the good dishes and platters and linens saved for Christmas! Time to call distant relatives in Italy and British Columbia to wish a Merry Christmas! At the end of the day-another sip of wine by the Christmas tree to reflect and be tired but with a joyous heart! To enjoy the quiet house when the grandchildren with all their noise leaves the buildings! But to know enjoying all that noise and excitement really does make Christmas special! Having those little ones in my life is the joy! Even the big ones too!! So what memories did this Christmas make for you? Are you missing someone? Did you add any new people to your life?

POWER MEANS WARMTH-MORE THOUGHTS ON THE ICE STORM 2013

Do you have power? We often think of power as the ability to control our lives. But lately in Ontario, Quebec and New Brunswick it means electricity, hydro or "power". The Ice Storm has brought so much disruption to people's lives. Trying to stay in a cold house or apartment for days has been a test of strength. Some people succumbed and went to a hotel. Forget the warming centers set up! My daughter said not to treat someone like a "homeless person". Not shelters really so there is a difference. We were lucky. Only one daughter had no power for 1/2 day last Sunday. Many people in our area are still without electricity and spent Christmas day in jackets and hats opening presents. We are told to prepare for disasters with water, flashlights, a generator and other non-perishables-make sure to have a can opener. No one really tells people how to prepare emotionally! It does take a toll emotionally no matter how invincible everyone thinks they may be. Luckily many of our gadgets can be wireless or use batteries! But still trying to read a cell phone by candlelight wears after a few days. Not being able to flip the stations on the TV. One piece of advice I heard was to get a wood burning stove-sure on the 15th floor of an apartment building in downtown Toronto that would really work. Those unaffected have those gems of advice. When a disaster happens, advice can be great. However, no matter how prepared we think we may be, when there is destruction it is unbearable. Going down streets locally and seeing tree branches everywhere and the tops of trees with "spikes" where the branches have been is a little unnerving. Seeing your street differently! Like in tornados when whole subdivisions are taken out! All the preparation honestly does very little. I usually walk around my house when there is a warning with my purse over my arm and my camera. I figure I have my ID and insurance information if needed. Oh yes if the power goes out and everything is intact that is different. A few hours, a few days we do survive. Do we learn some priorities in our lives? Yes making sure the people we love are safe. Bringing friends and family into our homes for meals, warmth and a hot bath. Anger does set in. Why does one area have heat and others do not? Angry at the mayor, the utilities, the services and even God-why can't you work faster! Even knowing that it may be one tree branch cut at a time and one wire reattached at a time that well takes time sees a person thinking it is not enough when they are cold! It really is the darkest before the dawn. To those hanging in there, the power will return. To us lucky ones, inviting others has become a new norm! Sharing has a new meaning- warmth in a cold season! Do you think anyone will ever complain again if there is a power outage in the summer of being too hot??? We'll see!!!

ICE STORM 2013 IN THE GREATER TORONTO AREA

Early morning December 22 brought the reality of the Ice Storm. Tree branches laden with ice snapped and on the ground. In Toronto, many branches taking down hydro wires. In my neighbourhood the lines are underground. My hydro grid is on the hospital grid-Mackenzie Richmond Hill Hospital-Mackenzie Health! Many areas in Richmond Hill are still without power as I write this. Many of work colleagues do not have power and the joke at work is they can bring their stuff and use showers there. 70,000 customers had been without power in York Region which equates to more people as there are family groups. Many people in Toronto-an estimate of 250,000++ customers- will not have power until the end of the week. So who cooks Christmas dinner for many will  have changed. With all the ice on the trees still very frozen, the worst is not over. A snowfall or wind or both will bring many more branches crashing down. All the streets have little piles of branches. We have some branches down. The good news is my neighbour cut many long branches that were hanging into my property back in September so I still have a roof!! What is always amazing is how we prepare! Even myself being through other acts of nature could have done a better job. Only 1/4 tank of gas in the car, 1 bag of milk, and could have had more salt and all my flashlights in working order. Of course, Adolph just shrugs it off since we were one of the lucky ones who only had the power off for 20 minutes then 10 minutes. If it was day 3 without power like many in the GTA perhaps he would not be shrugging!  Luckily the schools are out, many people have taken time off work for the Christmas week, less cars. Pearson Airport with the largest de-icing system in the world has been getting as many people on their way. We may need Hydro crews from the States as we do have reciprocal agreements with them-we helped with Hurricane Sandy for example. So here's to the service providers-hydro, cable, phone, road and all the other crews working 24 hours non-stop to restore services to us. An added note-seeing the sky light up with a transformer blowing is a little eerie. Early Sunday morning since I awakened at 4 am I witnessed those flashes in the sky both south and north of us- lightening bolts can bring interesting imagery but transformers blowing really do not!

Will the trees survive all their breakage? Only time will tell. Anyone need some ice! There's plenty in the GTA!

CHRISTMAS MAGICAL MOMENTS

Christmas magic happens because adults make it happen. The recent Toy Mountain Drive in the GTA went over its number to get 150,000 toys donated. The CHUM Christmas wish is doing well. Food bank drives and adopting a family drives for Christmas are in full swing. In every area across Canada, adults are helping local people with their special Christmas collections and efforts to feel some magic! Santa and all the Santas out there that make sure the children in their lives have magical moments! Some of my work colleagues went together to make magic happen for a couple of little girls that wanted some new bedding for their new place. Me-I did my own thing and made some magic of my own! Grandparents are able to fill some gaps in the wish lists for the grandchildren at the relief of the parents! Helps to fill the spaces under the tree! The fun with making magical moments-like a living room with music boxes, singing snowmen, santas to touch and boxes to rearrange- is the adults can revisit all the magic of Christmas. I sometimes watch from another room my grandchildren enjoying Nana and Granpa's things! A home with the preferred family decorations or theme with lights bring a joy, coziness and room to create memories. Every Christmas tree decorated to the owner's special effort! I love decorated trees and often spend time just looking at all the ornaments and things on them to appreciate the care and effort that went into it! Yes the season with all the fuss and hoopla can make many adults really tired! After the tired comes the magic and those magical moments with little children on Christmas morning thrilled that Santa came. For the big children looking through that Christmas stocking for all the little things that arrived by magic! But honestly there are no magicians just a lot of busy elves with various names like Mommy, Daddy, auntie, uncle, grandpa, grandmother-well you get the picture! To all that make the magic happen, enjoy the moments!!

CHRISTMAS PHOTOGRAPHY TAKES PLANNING

Christmas photos take some planning and creativity. In the midst of present opening and eating and children running around photos may seem like they are easy to get but often not. The larger the crowd the harder it is to get everyone in one spot or willing to have the picture taken. Everyone has their strategy on trying to get the shots!!! I have learnt from my past mistakes. One year several of us wore a black sweater so in the picture we are merged as one big blob!! So a variety of colours between the same colour can distinguish each person. One of my daughters suggested several years ago to take the family shots between courses. Eat the dinner then pause for pictures before having dessert and coffee! It works as everyone is more willing after the tummies are full. Do you have a good spot with a fun background? Sometimes we use the fireplace and other times the living room couch with teddy bears in the background. I have a favourite shot of Adolph, the girls and me all holding a teddy bear.  Trying to get the grandchildren in one shot is like trying to herd cats! I have several Christmas hats so maybe yell everyone put on a hat and snap, snap, snap! So sometimes if I see all the grandchildren in one spot or area, quickly tell them-look at Nana and get a shot or two. Sometimes it is not easy to take adult pictures-two of my adult family can be a pain in getting their pictures. If there are several events happening, I try to make sure I get a picture with my husband, each of my girls, each grandchild alone and different family group shots. With a recent Sip n See and two family dinners approaching, I make an effort to keep track of what shots have not occurred! Actually the Christmas pictures started with the Santa Claus parade. For any photographer out there, the rule of thumb is take lots of pictures. For me as long as I have the preferred groupings it does not matter at which event it occurs! The girls are good with taking the annual Christmas pictures with an outside photographer so they are added to the scrapbooked photo album or added to a frame to see year round! So as a Nana I often grab a kid and say take my picture quickly! Although group shots are fun, those one on one with the loved ones in my life have meaning too. You see-I have some long range projects in mind. Each grandchild may get their own scrapbooked album from Nana one day in the distant future. I make sure Granpa has a photo with each grandchild too! I know it sounds lame but I often walk around family or other social events with my camera on my shoulder ready to click the photos as I see them! As any photographer can tell you that elusive 5 seconds to grab the camera and the moment has passed!! Digital lets us all take lots and edit or delete what we do not want! I often wonder during this season how many photos are occurring every minute or hour! Happy photographing and to all a good pose! Smile-let me take your picture!

CHRISTMAS CARDS ARE HUNG

in the doorway with care. When you send cards to friends and families every Christmas, the delight is receiving one back with little messages and updates. My Christmas newsletter is well received by many and those that think it is lame-oh well!! In the last week, I have had some fun. A card from one of our Armed Forces personnel from Haiti thanking me for my well wishes. As everyone knows, I have sent letters or cards and before September 11th little packages to our Armed Forces personnel wherever they are serving. I usually may get one letter or card back. Last year I did not receive one which is okay but in my mailbox this week the card from one was waiting. Then Zia Maria in Georgia, USA thanking us in Italian for the update. Sylvia on Vancouver Island that writes long messages in her cards every year makes her card a joy. Debra telling me she loves reading my newsletter every year. Cathy still working and loving it! Some just sign their name after a Merry Christmas. Of course an email newsletter is printed and placed with with cards!! I save all the stamps as I am a collector as most people know! I love the young family cards with the recent family photos! Love that the younger crowd still sends out lots of cards that way! Close family will also receive a phone call because the voice on the other end is good to hear. Oh Christmas card, oh Christmas card you are a pleasure in my life! To all who sent one, your card in hanging in a special spot and has another special place in my heart!!

NANA SAYS USE THE CHRISTMAS BREAK TO REGROUP AS A FAMILY

After the big day and the Holidays are in full swing, it is often a challenge to plan for the children when they are away from school. Chilling at home and playing with the new toys and gadgets may take some creative planning. Families used to the "busyness" of rushing out the door, lessons, eating in a hurry need to regroup and rethink the chilling piece. If your child received some new books, sit and read with him or her. If a new board game was in the mix then actually sit and play it. New skates-go skating! A new sled-go sledding! Skis-go skiing! Even bundling up in warm clothes and frolicking in a new snow-making snow angels, building a snowman! Oh yes, a trip south with all the rushing can occur too! But many people remain at home and parents take time off work due to the Stat days. So parents what do you need for yourself too! Time to read and catch up on your correspondence-no I do not mean a quick tweet but maybe a real phone call or visit with a friend! With all the children at home, maybe sharing playdays so the parents can go out! No I do not mean more shopping although the sales will be plentiful and irresistible! Taking time to slow down and regroup is important for families. Some of my best memories are the chilling days as a child. Lazing around the house in my PJs enjoying my new Christmas gifts until it was time to return to school after the holidays. We focus too much on how busy we are. It becomes too competitive with other parents to try to outdo the number of things and activities we have. " My child has 6 lessons! Well my child has 10 lessons!" Not much has changed from the time my own children were little and in copious lessons. There was competition then too! So maybe be the parent that brags about learning to stop and enjoy the quiet moments and simple activities with their children will be the cool parent. Perhaps more cuddles on the couch. Long talks and walks with the teenagers. Listening not just hearing what is going on in their lives. Perhpas putting away all the cell phones and other gadgets for several hours daily to enjoy the quiet! Remember life is short! The time enjoying the little ones and even the older ones will pass! So can a goal for this break in your schedult help you as a parent to rethink, regroup and just plan enjoy some fun moments whatever they may be with the children and other people in your life. Oh yes, don't forget the children can enjoy some quiet moments with the grandparents too! Merry Christmas! If you celebrate other holidays, Happy Holidays to you! 

CANADIANS LOVE THEIR CRANBERRIES

Canadians love their Cranberries. Grown here by the First nations' people and then adapted by the White Men and women who came. Strung together they could be a decoration along the branches of a Christmas tree. Used in muffins-just try one by Tim Hortons or make your own. Cranberry juice is good for your bladder-can fend off those nasty infections! Now there are dried cranberries that can be used in other dishes like your morning oatmeal with milk! For many festive parties this time of year, a cranberry based punch is a delight at any party. Adding some Canada Dry Ginger Ale to the cranberry juice with some fresh cranberries to float on top-guests can drink it! Non-alcholic or add a little vodka it complements the food served! Of course Cranberries are a must with the Christmas Day turkey dinner. Made into a side dish to put on some turkey just makes the meal very authentic Canadian. Oh cranberry! Perhaps a poem should be made about the lovely cranberry! Should I get started?  

CANADA HAS ITS WHITE CHRISTMAS SEASON

Yes it will be a Canadian white Christmas! But what is it about snow and Christmas! Ever since the movie a White Christmas does it signify one with the other. In many parts of the world people can go to the beach at Christmas. But here in Canada-snow is needed to make it pretty. With the last weekend with many parts of the country being slammed with snow and cars in the ditch, snow is not always so pretty. I spent over an hour clearing my driveway yesterday. Only 15 cm in our part of the country. The Maritimes had a lot more with the snow and wind heading to Newfoundland. Alberta has had several snowstorms since October! Of course Manitoba gets snow early in the season. Christmas needs the snow to make it pretty. Lots of Christmas cards feature snow and children skating and sledding down hills. A famous Canadian painter-Kreighoff painted many winter scenes featuring snow and people frolicking in it! So it will be a White Christmas afterall!

CANADIAN CHRISTMAS IMAGES AND MEMORIES

Christmas evokes many images and memories for all of us. There are cultural traditions. There are family traditions. Many people from other parts of the world have brought their traditions that now blend with Canadian traditions. My husband did not do much on Christmas day in Italy. Since coming to Canada in the late 1950s his Italian group have adapted to presents under the Christmas tree and other traditions that they have forgotten they were Canadian traditions in the first place!! So what memories do you have of your childhood Christmases? For me it was the stocking filled with little goodies, a large delicious apple and a large orange? My mother grew up during the Depression of the 1930s in Canada so fruit was scare in the winter for her as a child. An apple and orange in her stocking would have been a treat so she carried on the tradition with us. Of course the Santa gift was always beside the stocking. Although my family really does not eat plum pudding, I need to buy a small one to have in the house to have a little taste on Christmas day. My mother would add some rum to the sauce so it was very flavourful! I always gave my children a stocking but Adolph did not grow up with the stocking tradition. It was not much fun giving him a stocking filled and he did not reciprocate. It came with little meaning for him so as a couple we did not do the stocking thing. Actually I miss it as most adults I know still do a stocking for each other. Just love to hear about those "stocking stuffers"! So I have the memory anyway! With my house nicely decorated and the tree up, the coziness of my home brings a sense of peace and joy. As a child I liked to sit by the Christmas tree with the lights which is something I still enjoy. Snuggled in a corner of my love seat, I can knit or crochet, read a book or quietly listen to music. There is that seasonal bliss that comes with the Christmas season. Even in stores seeing well decorated trees can be admired! Oh the memories and images-I could go on but perhaps in another post! How about you? What images does it evoke?

CHRISTMAS CAN BRING DEPRESSION AND SOCIAL ISOLATION

Amidst all the hoopla of the Christmas season, many people can feel depressed and socially isolated. Trying to find your way can be difficult. Family events should be fun but often can be very stressful if there are unresolved family issues. If alone, try to be around people. Even going to a movie alone will bring some social sense to your life. If depressed-call a crisis line, call your doctor or if you find coping is too difficult go to your nearest emergency department to seek help. Remember the season will pass! Don't be afraid to ask other lonely people to your dinner or events. It may make a difference in their lives.



NANA SAYS-STOP-YOUR CHILD WILL NEVER BE THIS AGE AGAIN

In the midst of your busy hectic parental life, stop! Where and why are you rushing? Remember this-your child will never be this age again. So if you want to read that book, do that craft, just spend some actual not running around quality time-you must make it happen! Christmas can be very busy so make unbusy moments happen. Do shorter activities! What works for your child! Or children? Less is more! The most important social person is the parent with little children. But even bigger children need your time and wisdom. Sure kids want things! But they need you. Pick a simple activity or watch a movie together or go for that quick meal at a favourite restaurant! Whatever? When you find yourself saying, I don't have time! Stop! Look at what you are doing and can you find the time for your child? Remember your child will never be 1 month, 2 years, or 8 years or 15 again. Before you blink an eye-all grown up!! So what are you doing-hurry and stop to enjoy the miracle in front of you!!

LIFE IS LIKE AN ORCHESTRA

An orchestra has many participants. All skilled in an instrument or two. Know how to follow the rules. Team players. Can follow a leader but can stand alone doing their part. Our lives can be an orchestra. We can have many instruments playing simultaneously or one solo! Sometimes we lead and sometimes we follow. We can house our orchestra in a beautiful building or take it to the streets! So what kind of music do you make? Is it pleasant to soothe your soul? Is it loud to drown out others in your life? Do you like the music you make? Do you want to change the music you make? Why not change some of the instruments? Me-a harp would suffice!

IT'S BEGINNING TO FEEL A LOT LIKE A CANADIAN CHRISTMAS

The tree is decorated with my lights flung over the curtain rod on the sliding doors behind it so the reflection in the window makes them look more colourful. Just a couple of stocking stuffers to buy to round out the gifts. With the light dusting of snow on the ground this morning, it really is beginning to look a lot like Christmas. How about your area? Many parts of Canada and the United States have been slammed with snow! So the skiers and sledders and snowboarders must be in heaven! Time to get out the skates for those make shift outdoor ponds and rinks! How is your baking going? Are you finding some quiet Christmas season moments with friends and family? A holiday concert at the day care this week to see my grandchildren perform should be fun! Next week delivering the gifts to the girls' houses is an activity I enjoy! Clears out a big corner in my house!  Christmas! Must put on some Christmas music which I absolutely love and when no one is around I sing out loud! Two weeks and a bit to go! So pace yourself and don't get sick from the stress! If alone, let someone know so you can join their activities! If you are missing someone this year, put a little memorial for them to be included in your festivities. Oh yes it is beginning to feel a lot like Christmas!! Ho, Ho, Ho.!

NELSON MANDELA-AN INSPIRATION TO ALL

Nelson Mandela inspired a generation to fight racial inequality.

 He believed in education for all. May his voice and lessons continue in those who learnt from him. Like the stone thrown in the water, may the waves touch the other shore and continue to make a difference.

NANA SAYS DECEMBER IS TIME TO BRACE YOURSELF FOR THE CHRISTMAS SEASON

With the start of December, the Christmas season can rave up for most families. Decorating, finishing shopping and trying to do some activities with little children takes planning and patience. So what memories do you want to create? A harried parent running from activity to activity? Children love many aspects of the season. With most of my decorating finished, my granddaughter Sophia enjoyed revisiting all of Nana's things. The Christmas books, time to sit and watch a movie, and baking one or two items for the season can be home functions.. My advice-do one activity at a time. I remember when my girls were small I needed to do my baking and wanted to make sugar cookies with them. Trying to do my stuff and their activity did not work. Children need to take their time. So after that little disaster, I learnt to do my baking separately and their cookie making as a fun time! My girls make a gingerbread house or cupcakes with their kids! One activity at a time! Using the grandparents so some things can be done may be essential. Dropping the grandkids to them or a friend's house allows some time to wrap and finish Christmas chores without little eyes around! It is a busy time of year. But try to find those quiet moments with your children before the big day! If possible, remember to try to take some of those unused vacation days to get things done. A home with love and joy of the season gives a good message to children. Of course, music playing often so they learn the Christmas carrols that no longer are allowed in most schools!

A CANADIAN CHRISTMAS CARD-CARRY ON THE TRADITION

       

Many Christmas activities take thought and work. The Christmas card is one of them. However it is one I really enjoy doing because I love hearing from friends and family far and near. I have been writing my Christmas newsletter for the last few years as a few scribbled lines in a card really take more time and does not update everyone. Now with facebook and email much of what is written is already known by most of my contacts. There are a few people that do not use that social media so it gives the new information from the year in a little time capsule. One of my contacts is a 94 year old woman who lives in Portland Oregon that Adolph and I met on our honeymoon in Hawaii in 1971! A nice contact as she was kind when my girls were born-she made them a crib blanket from scraps of various Hawaiian fabrics. Her son wrote an email last year as his mom had misplaced our address but I had put the email address in the newsletter. He updated us about her! Rather sweet! The newsletter saved the day!
Then some old work mates that moved away-just nice to know what is happening. I always hope they would come to the GTA for a visit as I really would have them stay with me.
Of course, my proverbial letters to our Armed Forces around the world that get sent in mid-November. Can not be a closed card in an envelope so I write a nice letter on coloured paper that I fold and tape so they can peak inside to see-it's just a letter! Sometimes someone writes me back! I have always treasured those letters. I always think that someone serving somewhere may have had a moment of cheer from a friendly Canadian stranger who cares!
Of course all these letters are saved and printed the modern way. One written letter then printed in as many copies as needed! I always wished the word processer or computer had been around when I was job hunting in my youth.
I love the years when a family member will say I was too busy to write any Christmas cards this year. Funny as a busy working woman and both my girls have busy lives, we still manage to send out the cards. I actually find this younger generation are having family or just children photos that are sent as their cards. It seems they have embraced the whole Christmas card thing! Great for others to see their growing family. I always put those cards in with my Christmas photo album or really it is more like a scrapbook album!
So the debate to christmas card or not! Just send an email to one and all! Just a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year on Facebook! Sometimes a friendly phone call is good too! But it really does take more work and time!

So what are you doing? Do you still like to receive cards from others? For the record I sent mine already. They had been written earlier in the season but I waited until December to have a December postmark on the envelope. I did not want to look too organized or keen! So we will keep it as our little secret!

FINDNG THOSE QUIET MOMENTS IN THE CHRISTMAS SEASON

Early morning photos of snow covered benches and trees bring a different perspective to a common scene. Like life, it is good to view some aspects differently. Taking time away from a stressful situation can bring a clarity that gets missed if immersed in it! Slowing down and feeling an event can allow time for healing too! Distancing oneself from negativity can allow the positive energy to return to our inner souls! The Christmas season can bring mixed feelings too. The demands of family events and the need to sit back and enjoy can be conflictual. Finding the balance may take work! Or sometimes just stop and photograph a pretty scene!

STARTING DECEMBER AT THE ONE OF A KIND CRAFT SHOW AND SALE IN TORONTO

November ended with a birthday celebration. Adolph did most of the cooking for our daughter's dinner party! Fresh pasta by him and greek salad by Natasha. Simple family times are the best. Enjoying a cake with some singing rounded off the evening. December started with more Christmas preparations. A jaunt downtown to the One of a Kind Craft show and sale with Sonya and new baby was a good start to the month. It was at the Direct Energy Centre on the Exhibition grounds. It reminded me of the first one of a kind show and sale. It was in 1975 when I had started my first job at Catholic Children's Aid. My work buddy Denise and I actually went to it several times on our lunch hour as it was about 10 minutes away from our workplace.. It was smaller of course. I bought some beautiful grey wine glasses that were made by a potter. I still have those glasses but do not use them as they are tucked away. The Sale has grown over the years. I do not attend every year but going every few years makes it fun. Perhaps a few photos will be shared at a later time. Crafters come from all over Canada to exhibit and sell their wares. I grabbed a few business cards of some of the artists to scruntinize their web sites at another time. So are you going to any craft sales? Even the local church ones can be fun this time of year and often are for a good cause!   

A CANADIAN MOOSE IN A MALL? CANADIAN, EH!

Nature at its best! Christmas brings out the artist and creativity in many people. Shopping recently at Yorkdale Mall in Toronto, the beautiful Swarovski tree with decorations was too hard to resist a photo or two. Low and behold- a moose! Bringing the forest to the urban setting worked.

Lots of crystal on the tree!

There was lots of details on the tree. If you look closely in the middle of the bulb, you can see me taking the picture. Fun to be part of the Christmas photo. Are there photo opportunities at your malls across the country and the world. Why not explore in the midst of all your Christmas shopping! Bet you can tell I love the Christmas season! How about you?

CHRISTMAS PREPARATIONS COULD USE SOME ELVES

Eleves would help with the work and stress of Christmas preparations. Often it is the mother that makes the magic of Christmas happen for her family. Over the years there are often suggestions of dividing the work. Remember the cookie drive! Have a group of friends and each of you make one kind of cookie or square but dozens then each swap with each other. Can you think of other ways to share the load? Have play days with a friend so that Mom can clean, shop, bake, wrap or whatever is needed? Use other family members to share some of the activities of Christmas with you! Spreading out the events in different houses shares the load! Back to planning and deciding what is really important for the season! Dragging children to shop at the Mall is not the best way to enjoy it! Think back of your childhood! Watching my mother make Christmas cake was one for me! Quiet times in the home! Ask your children and spouse what are the most important activities they want to do! Many young parents buy the gingerbread house items and make their own! Creating memories that are simple! So can you think of someone who could be your Elf? Remember Santa had lots of them- he does not do everything alone!

CANADIAN PARADES ARE FUN

Cookie monster was a big hit at the local parade. It could be seen far in the distance before it made it to where we were sitting. The children loved it.

But at the Thanksgiving parade in New York City, large blown up characters like this are the norm. For us locales, it was fun. What is it about parades that draw crowds? I wonder when parades originated. Perhaps a little research in the New Year to look at this concept. Are you having a local parade? What is the theme? Here in Canada there are many Santa Claus or Christmas or Holiday parades occurring across the country! Attending at least one is a must for everyone!

NANA SAYS SANTA CLAUS PARADES ARE A TRADITION FOR CANADIAN CHILDREN

Local parades are occurring across the country every weekend. The one in Richmond Hill was last weekend. The main event is always the Santa float for the little children. Attending with little children brings back the magical moments of Christmas. Some floats were local church groups with one with the motto put Christ back in Christmas! Lots of Happy Holidays too to keep us multicultural! Of course a few bands playing some fun music for us! Politicians from every level of government handing out candy canes and some flyers from businesses! Fun for everyone and a little cold on the toes! They enjoyed " high fiveing" the various dressed characters in the parade. Santa Claus parades are a tradition for Canadians. As a little girl, I attended the Eaton's parade in Toronto now renamed as the Toronto Santa Claus parade. It occurred November 17. It is rather impressive and televised. My children used to be in the local parade when they attended Brownies and Guides! Seeing the new generation brought back some memories. As we are older we make the magical moments for the children! Standing in the cold and acting as if it is fun helps! My children and grandchildren like this parade because it is close to Nana's house. Spreading out the season's activities lets parents have some quiet moments too. So hot chocolate, marshmellows and cookies at Nana's house after the parade warmed everyone! Granpa had some too!

DECORATING THE HOUSE FOR CHRISTMAS IS LOTS OF WORK

Decorating for the Christmas season can begin as early as you want. Some people have their homes decorated mid-November. Others have specific times to start. My house always was decorated after my daughter's birthday in late November. I did not want Christmas to interfere with her birthday. I have lots of decorations and enough tree ornaments for several Christmas trees. So I do not put all my stuff out every year now. My living room is my Santa room so all the big Santas are displayed but not all the little Santa items. Several years ago, I discovered my grandchildren liked to play with them all, rearranging all my displays. So I leave the little things packed away. I put the coloured stacking boxes for the children to have some fun along with the Hallmark singing displays accumulated over the years. My winding staircase only houses some lights now as the green garland used for years is packed away too. The year there was a family wedding in January, decorating was reduced as well. Even with just putting out the larger items, the work is there along with the acquired items of decades. It takes energy to decorate and of course time! So big things fill up spaces if this year does not bring enthusiasm for you! Less can be more! Of course a well decorated Christmas tree fills a big space. For me, I buy a real one about 10 days before Christmas and it comes down New Year's Day! Spacing out the Christmas activites helps with the stress of the season. Giving time to do what needs to be done helps! Sometimes let's admit it-everyone needs a break from the hoopla of the season. When the house is finally decorated, it can be enjoyed. Looking at bins of things can not! So if you must decorate a little at a time due to time constraints, have a spot where your stuff can go until it goes up in the house. Coming home from work to a mess can be discouraging! Plug away at it and it will be done! Don't be afaid to leave some things tucked away! Wanting to try a new look can be too! It is okay to be tired of the same old things! So how is your decorating coming along?

MY FIRST SNOW

When the first real snow arrives, it is always a bit of a surprise and shock. Preparation starts weeks in advance with winter tires, buying the salt and putting the shovels and snow blower where they can be retrieved easily. The scarves, mitts and hats are in the front hall closet and the boots are by the the door. Physically we are ready, but emotionally it takes it toll. Adults think of all the hazzle of getting around in the winter. Children want to play in the snow. Explore! Mess up the clean paths! Make a snowman! Of course, there are many parts of Canada that have had their first snow weeks ago. For us in the GTA-Greater Toronto Area- the end of November or first week of December is usually the norm. The snow often does not stay. So the ugly Fall brown is in our face!
For those that want to ski or snowboard there are areas not far away where it can occur! Sledding is always fun! There is a small hill by the Richmond Hill Central Library-just a little dusting and it is full of children and adults sliding down! Funny with all the technology and computer savy kids- sliding down a hill is as much fun in 2013 as it was 200 years ago! The white stuff brings out the kid in many of us- as long as we do not have to drive in it! One of my favourite things about the snow is looking down a street at night with some snow and Christmas lights shining! It makes such a Christmas card scene! No matter what the end of fall and start of winter is occuring! As Canadians the white stuff is part of our conscienceness! I know many snowbirds head south to avoid it! Good for them! For most of us, finding a way to accept it and actually enjoy it can be an annual challenge! Luckily, as a grandparent  I dress warmly and frolic in the snow with my grandchildren! If being outside is not your thing, a hot beverage of choice sitting by a window reading a book and observing the outside works just as well! What does the word snow evoke in you?

MAKING WRAPPING THOSE CHRISTMAS GIFTS EASY

One of the dilemmas of the season is where to hide the gifts once purchased. Wrapping them a few at a time seems to be the solution for me. With little grandchildren that visit often and now know to snoop, it solves the problem of where to hide the items. Once wrapped and labelled, put in larger Christmas bags for each family group, the secret is safe until Christmas morning! Which brings us to wrapping! There are so many choices now- pay a charity at the Mall that does wrapping, with your  online shopping gifts can be delivered to the recipient gift wrapped, tissue and bagged or wrapping that special gift with the pretty paper, special ribbon and little ornament. A fun thing for children of course is the proverbial candy cane on top instead of the ornament! An easy way is the gift box. I like them for the children's clothes. Put 2 or 3 items in the box with some tissue and a little tape-voila! Too many bags are hard to place under the tree so a few boxes are good for stacking. So how is your shopping and wrapping going?

50TH ANNIVERSARY OF KENNEDY'S DEATH

Today marks 50 years since the Kennedy death. As a young girl, I remembered what I was doing when I heard the news. Watched Oswald get shot live on TV! In disbelief! There have been other news events and tradegies that stick in my mind too. The shuttle explosion! Of course, September 11th! It has been asked the last week, why the fascination with Kennedy! Why do we still care? He was American but it effected Canada and the next years. It was said he would end the war in Viet Nam sooner which lasted into the 1970s. Do we remember to hope it will not happen again? I wonder how Caroline feels today! Her whole life she has lived in the shadow of that event! He was a President but he was her Dad! Most people I know now are younger and not even cognizant of the event! Perhaps, it gave me a fascination for news events and history. Perhaps it taught me about death! Does it rank with the motto- Lest We Forget! Today in Dallas and other parts of the USA there will be talk and remembrance. To my American friends and colleagues-my heart is with you! 

FAMILIES ARE LIKE FLOCKS OF GEESE

Families are like flocks of geese. Sometimes one takes the lead, then moves over to let another do the job. They mate for life. They like to return to the same area to have their babies indicating they like stability. Not every goose likes the other goose. So in families there can be differences, disagreements and even times when it is more important to put distance on relationships in order to survive. Siblings can be estranged as can children from parents. Finding one's way with family can be simple or very complicated. Add in-law relationships and it can become even more complicated. Real families talk about their issues. Large families can have the pretense that everything is fine because large numbers get together! Being in the same room does not mean everyone cares for everyone else. Different ages and different stages can bring an ebb and flow to a family. There can be decades of discontent that erupts later in life. "Mom always liked me best!" Some children just need to be the one! " I am the oldest so I deserve everything, and you do not!" Believe or not this still can be the battlecry in many families. It is such an archaic concept! Just because royalty has to abide by this rule does not mean the average family has the same rule! Even giving more to the boys than the girls rules in some cultures is still a standard! Like it is said we can pick our friends but we can not pick our family! If you are dealing with any troubles right now, just put distance on it! Pick the number of times a family event needs to occur- 2- 3 events annually is more than enough! If the relationship is stronger than as often as you want! Just because your family looks like a flock does not mean alone and down times help you survive! Nurture your own family. Your spouse and little children should take priority over the extended family. Regroup! Renew! Revisit what is important to you! Don't confuse childhood good memories with the conflicts of adulthood. Life and families change! How you enjoyed things at 5 is very different than 35! Families are good when they work! So find the good points about your own family and distance from the negative ones! And feel good about it! Look at some of the immigrants who left large family groups behind-visiting every so many years! Hum was there a reason for it! Probably! Emotional distance is good for everyone! What do you think about your family? Are there concerns that need contemplation? Are there things that you can just let go?

NANA SAYS THE BUSY CHRISTMAS SEASON IS MANAGEABLE

The Christmas season revs up early in the Fall so it also revs up the children. Keeping a lid on activities so children have time to enjoy takes planning and lots of patience. The Christmas photos, the visit to Santa, attending a parade or two, let alone the school homework and events are very challenging to parents. Starting early with activities and pacing oneself is essential. Using your children as a excuse not to do things well is an excuse. Christmas comes at the same time every year so if planning has not occurred yet, there is no time like the present to get started. So what is important in your family. Start with where Christmas dinner will occur and go backwards to the events leading up to it. The visit to Santa can be on an off night and not the busiest Saturday. Luckily parades are in November so can be a short event. Knowing what the children want for Christmas is important so the gifts can be bought in store or ordered on line. Try to plan many quiet events at home with children- baking cookies, making some crafts, reading Christmas stories especially the birth of Jesus and why we have Christmas, planning a day to decorate the tree etc. Plan to quiet your parental energy! A load of laundry on while an activity is done! The school events have set dates so plan around them. Take a deep breath as the season gets busy. Oh yes, it is manageable! Generations before you managed with fulltime working and lesson schedules too! Watching favourite Christmas movies together allows for a time to sit! There is a choice to make the season a busy, busy hectic time or busy enough with some quiet fun moments! Remember you are creating the memories for your children-simple can be better! Grandparents and aunts and uncles are good resources to help with the events! A hot seasonal topic so there will be more suggestions as the season evolves.

ORGANIZING FOR CHRISTMAS-A CHRISTMAS WREATH

A wreath on a front door is one of the easist Christmas decorations. The variety is endless! Make one, buy a ready made store one or go to a craft show and sale buying from a crafter! The one featured used recycled Christmas ornaments pinned on a foam wreath! Using pinecones and other natural items keeps the season very Canadian.

ORGANIZING FOR CHRISTMAS-THE OUTDOOR CHRISTMAS LIGHTS

Organizing for Christmas does not have to be a blur. Take an activity at a time and methodically complete it. The outdoor Christmas lights can go up when you want! Some have them up immediately after Remembrance Day while others wait until the end of November or early December. My folks used to leave the lights along the house up year round-they just did not turn them on!! An outdoor display can be a single set of lights or an immense display-your choice. Strings of lights get more mileage if strung out rather than bunched. Now with the prelit trees and other lawn ornaments, outdoor displays are much easier to do. A beautiful lit tree in a front window can be your display as well! Before putting the lights outside, check that all the strings are working by plugging them in and checking any burnt out bulbs. Think about which strings attach to each to other as eventually one has to go to the extension cord that plugs into the electrical outlet! I usually do the display because Adolph often says later or tomorrow. Since I am short and use a ladder, I always call my display the "short woman's display"! Nothing special- strings of lights between trees and winding one or two around my oak tree. Last year, buying two of those prelit trees that go by the door! Not award winning but pretty enough! So think about your display, plan it and pick a non-windy moment to put the lights and other items out!  

IS A DOG MAN'S BEST FRIEND?

Is a dog really man's best friend? To many dog owners, the answer would be yes. Unconditional love, happy to see you and does not talk back! Pets in families are like another member of the family. They can be working animals like seeing eye dogs, police dogs and visiting the sick and old as therapeutic dogs. The variety of dogs suits the dog owners. Be careful which one you choose as it is often said dogs look like their owners. Sometimes dogs show up in art. The bronze sculpture at Harbourfront in Toronto is such a piece of art. Bending on the front patio of a restaurant it is a favourite tourist attraction! Do you have a dog? Do you like your dog more than most people? Too many dog owners would admit that one!

A BRIDGE SUPPORTS A TRANSITION

Bridges take us from one side to another. It can denote change. In our dreams, bridges can have many symbolic meanings to the person. Undergoing a new adventure can feel like crossing a bridge. Bridges can be on footpaths or across enormous gorges. Looking up at the bridge let's us see the span! Looking down from a bridge can bring different meaning to our lives! The world below is visualized. A bridge can take us from earth to heaven. Sometimes people chose to end their lives by jumping off a bridge! Bridges are often necessary as major highways. Like the London bridge beside the London Tower! Raising and lowering to let the boat traffic go by on a daily basis. In Ontario, the Burlington Skyway is a huge bridge linking us to the Niagara Pennisula! Although they can be commonplace, they are an engineering feat. Do you have a favourite bridge? Do you have a story about a bridge?

LIFE IS LIKE A BALLOON

Life can be celebrated in many ways. Balloons are a sure indicator something good is happening! Enjoying the good times usually comes from relief of going through a hard time! Grabbing on to a balloon of life can help the mood change to relishing the moment! Like little children we can play with it, tie it to our wrist  or put it on display. Be careful though because you may encounter others who want to pop your balloon! I don't know why but there are many people that can not celebrate happiness. Or if that person is miserable everyone else should be too! Balloons are fun! If you go to the right party store that sells balloons, there is a variety of many different themes to buy! Sometimes just have a balloon on display in your home-for fun! I had one birthday balloon for Adolph tied to the front banister on display for over a month. The grandchildren enjoyed batting it and seeing it! Like a symbol-we enjoy life here! So if you bought a balloon today, what would it be! Mine would be a little princess with another princess and 3 knights nearby! 

THURSDAY REFLECTIONS BY BARBARA

Reflections make us stop and look at ourselves. Often we point fingers at others but must remember 3 are pointing back at us! As we look at the picture the reflections are upside down. In life, turning things upside down can give a new perspective and might give some new direction in our lives! Taking the blessing and not taking them for granted is a good first step. When events do not go well, the first response can be-woe is me, why did this happen to me, etc. When things go well, there may be no reaction but the expectation, why not I deserve everything in life. Stopping when events go well and just saying thank you to God or to the universe is more important. Relishing the good times and holding on to them. Are you experiencing a good time? Are you relieved an event has been good? Are you just feeling happy about something? Well enjoy! 

NANA SAYS WELCOMING A NEW BABY TO THE FAMILY IS PRECIOUS

Welcoming a new baby to the family group is always a precious moment. As we lose people along the way, new life helps to keep the family going! New challenges for parents with older children. Helping siblings to adapt is a daily occurrence. Fortunately the new baby does not notice the older children are getting attention. The baby eats, sleeps, gets cuddled, can get rocked but does not worry Mommy and Daddy are helping the other children. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and friends can help with the transition. By watching the baby, Mommy can have a bath or shower. Taking the older children to events and giving some quality time can give the parens of the new baby some alone time! Babies are babies and lots of fun to have around family events! 

TAKING THE HECTIC OUT OF THE CHRISTMAS SEASON

Christmas preparation does not have to be hectic with the right plan and mindset. Christmas 25th is the day every year. If the preparation is started early, then the tasks fall into place. Many people buy presents year round, putting them aside to use at Christmas. Others decide to think shopping is what Christmas is all about! Hum! So what are the main events other than shopping.
Putting up the Christmas lights. Decorating the house. Putting up the tree. Wrapping those gifts. The Christmas events such as parties, pot luck at work, the visit to Santa, the Christmas pictures of the children,family get togethers or who is hosting the family dinners. Of course, Christmas cards and out of town parcels. Which church to attend or do you help with the Christmas concert! Sharing the Christmas message with little ones with a creche and Christmas stories!
Since I do have decades of experience with all of the above, I will be writing various posts over the next few weeks with some strategies for you. Please email or write comments about your own strategies.
Firstly if you have not done it already, write a list of all the people that require consideration for a present, a hostess gift etc. Since the out of town people need a gift sooner, start with them.
For the record, I usually write this list sometime in August. My girls provide the lists for their children mid-October. However, just getting started really helps.
Oh yes, I know there are many that only give gift cards and their Christmas message is an email saying Merry Christmas everyone! There are others where Christmas is a time of family and gathering so it is to those people that I want to share my ideas and organizational skills!
Many young families like the photo Christmas card showing their growing family so please do not tell me no one sends cards anymore! Some do, and some do not!  Christmas can be many things to many people!

So let's take the hectic out of Christmas!

IN FLANDERS FIELDS-A REMEMBRANCE TRIBUTE 2013

Wear your poppy today in remembrance!
A famous Canadian John McCrae wrote a poem on the battlefield during World War One. I have transcribed it here.

IN FLANDERS FIELDS
In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on  row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below

We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow
Loved and were love, and now we lie
In Flanders fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe;
To you, from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.

This poem is read and recited at most Remembrance services across Canada. John McCrae did not return home from the war but his reflection is a continual reminder to us all!

ENGLISH CEMETERY IN CASSINO ITALY-REMEMBERING OUR CANADIANS

The Cassino area has several cemeteries honouring those who died in World War Two. The English cemetery otherwise known as the British Commonwealth cemetery is in the Commune of Cassino, Province of Frosinone, Italy. There are grave markers of 4265 British Commonwealth Forces, 855 Canadians are buried there. On the Monuments by the pond area with 4,054 names who do not have an individual grave 194 Canadians can be found. Monte Cassino Monastery overlooks the cemetery. The history of the battles from 1944 is well recorded and analysed. For me this cemetery represents a piece of Canada . Married to an Italian born Canadian-Adolph, I had always heard about the area and his hometown. When I visited the cemetery in 1991, I came away feeling that a part of Canada will always belong there. In the weeks leading up to Remembrance Day, I always ask the Veterans selling poppies what campaign they fought. If it was the Italian campaign I always mention my visit to Cassino. I am sure the memories of lost comrades in arms never leave them. I feel to remember keeps me humble today! Have you visited a war cemetery? What were your feelings?

REVISITING THE CASSINO WAR CEMETERY-WAS I WORTH THEIR SACRIFICE

Adolph and I visited Italy in August 1991. I wrote this story several months later and tried to have it published-to no avail. So November 1, 2010, I wrote it and posted in on my blog. I decided to write it again today as a repeat post as the story is still valuable to help with Remembrance activities. The original title was "Was I worth their Sacrifice?Cassino War Cemetery".

Sometimes it takes a trip abroad to discover a Canadian sense of self. While touring the local sites in my husband's hometown of Cassino, Italy, south of Rome last summer we visited the three war cemeteries in the area. The are entitled the Polish, the German and the English cemeteries.

During World War Two, the Germans had established two main lines of defense- the Gustav and Hitler lines to check the Allies from advancing to Rome. During April and May 1944, there was major fighting in the area culminating with the bombing of the Benedictine Monastery on Monte Cassino. It was imperative to secure that location as it had a strategic vantage point overlooking the Liri Valley. Once captured it allowed the Allies an open road to Rome. On May 16, 1944 the First Canadian Corps received orders to advance on the Hitler line six miles up the Valley. The attack began May 23, Frosinone, the captial to the region was occupied by May 31. The Canadian campaign came to an end in the area as the Allies advanced to liberate Rome.

As we visited each cemetery, we noted the varying locations. The Polish cemetery is located near the Abbey where they had secured the Cassino position and the Monastery on May 18, 1944. The Polish General who died several years after the War requested to be buried with his troops. The German cemetery is located in Valley with triple graves of soldiers as there were just too many to bury. Rows and rows of young men, which makes it difficult to picture them as an enemy now.

Our last visit was the English cemetery or really the British Commonwealth one. Walking into the cemetery, I read the signs, inscribed on the two walls which state.

"WITHIN THIS CEMETERY STAND MONUMENTS WHICH BEAR THE NAMES OF THE SOLDIERS OF THE BRITISH COMMONWEALTH AND EMPIRE WHO FELL IN ASSAULTS UPON THE SHORES OF SICILY AND ITALY OR IN LATER BATTLES TO FREE ITALIAN SOIL AND TO WHOM THE FORTUNE OF WAR DENIED A KNOWN AND HONOURED GRAVE. AROUND THEM ARE THE GRAVES OF THEIR COMRADES WHO DIED FIGHTING IN THESE PARTS TO OPEN THE WAY TO ROME AND THE NORTH."

The other wall bears this inscription.

"THE LAND ON WHICH THIS CEMETERY STANDS IS THE GIFT OF THE ITALIAN PEOPLE FOR THE PERPETUAL RESTING PLACE OF THE SAILORS, SOLDIERS AND AIRMEN WHO ARE HONOURED HERE."

The Canadian section was quite large and distinguishable by the Maple Leaf adorning the top of each stone. It is one small cemetery of many in 74 countries that honour the 109,980 Canadians who died in the First and Second World Wars.

 I began to read the names of the men of the regiments of the First Canadian Corps. From Edmonton, Calgary, Saskatoon, West Nova Scotia, Quebec, British Columbia, Special services, The Engineers and more places, were all resting in peace. What overwelmed me were the dates in April, May. How many had fallen together. Comrades in Life! Comrades in Death!
My Canadians! Our Canadians! Tears and emotion overcame me. I left my companions as I did not want them to see my tears. I continued to walk amongst the rows wanting a glimpse of each stone. I felt I owed them; to acknowledge their being, their worth. Young men, mostly in their teens, their twenties, their thirties, who were denied a life that only those in middle age and older can appreciate that death in youth really has no rewards. But why was I crying? I felt a sense of pride. Those men fought for us, our freedom. They believed in a greater cause. I felt a sense of anger and the realization that if very politician and General would visit the cemeteries of the previous war, perhaps we could try to find alternatives. I felt a sense of sadness. Those men were sons, brothers, husbands, fathers, friends. They were missed at home. They did not chose that resting place. I remembered. An uncle had fought in Italy. A family friend went through there. Were those men their comrades?

All the cemeteries were quiet and peaceful. In Europe, they are kept clean often better maintained than the surrounding towns. Our men are honoured there. Almost fifty years buried while the living has gone on.

Would they be proud of Canada today? Would they consider us grateful of the freedoms they secured for us? Would they feel their cause was understood? Am I doing for Canada and freedom what I inherited from those men? To all those buried in the many cemeterires, am I worthy of your sacrifice?
April 1992

Reflecting and rewriting this story does bring back many memories. Of course the pictures help. Monte Cassino in the background overlooking the valley brings the historical facts to life. June 6 2014 will be the 70th anniversary of D-Day. As well it will be 70 years since the battles of the Cassino area. Remembering does not glorify war. Our peace and freedom have come with a price. Even today in communities across the country, men and women serve not just in the military,but police, firefighters, health care personnel and other disciplines to ensure our communities thrive. So as we reflect on Novemeber 11th at the 11th hour- remember and think about what it means to you. LEST WE FORGET!