Widowers are not grouped into groups. If you are a widower you get invited to couples events and people try to set you up.
Widows on the other hand are encouraged to join other widows in groups or settings. They must want to be together.
Not.
I am not interested in being around just other widows.
Couples, singles, divorcee-male and female. But not the widowed club.
Why do people including friends think I have so much in common with only widows?
Told- I have a friend that travels with other widows. My other widowed friend does this or that. Who cares?
No thank you. Often I would rather just be alone in social settings. I do not need to travel in groups nor entertain in groups.
Simply put. I miss my husband Adolph every day. I will always miss him every day. Hanging out with only widows does not change that feeling.
In social settings I like a variety of people.
Even my couple friends only see me alone and not with their spouses anymore. Even though we were couple friends. I have been replaced by a cousin and wife so the three couples does not include me anymore.
So how about you? Are you a widow that finds yourself left out of events or social situations? As a widower does the same apply to you? Probably not!!
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