NANA SAYS GIVE SIBLINGS INDIVIDUAL TIME

In our busy lives, it is much easier to try to do everything together. Give the children their baths together to reduce the bedtime routine. Drag everyone shopping together.  However children at different ages and stages need and want different activities. The baby sits and plays with the toys at his/her feet. The toddler wanders and explores. The 3 year old may sit and watch a movie or do a puzzle or want a book read. Then the imaginary play begins. So a 5 year old with an imagination gets frustrated with a baby. A teenager is bored watching his/her 8 year old sibling. Yes, children need to relate and respect each other. It is the parents that want them to get along all the time even though there are differences. Children of all ages can have chores and expectations to pull their weight. The 3 year old can put their shoes neatly at the door and take the dishes from the table to the sink. The older child can be expected to help at a different level- garbage duty, household tasks. But each child is their own unique person. For example, group family pictures are fun but remember to include individual shots of each person too. When one child has a birthday party, do something special with the other child or children. Don't compare intelligence. "Why can't you get A's in math like your sister?" Find the strengths in each child and nurture. I know-it takes time and " I am so busy!" Perhaps make a list on a daily basis of one simple activity to do with each child. Again, I know-homework can get in the way so perhaps, individual time with each child during homework time. Remember-do they have to do it together at the same table- individual spots may help. Would it reduce the fighting- probably! If there are two parents, then divide the time between the two of you. But alternate the tasks too! Each child does need special time with each parent. Do you find it difficult to complete all the work to be done every day? What have you found that helps to give your children individual attention? Have you noticed patterns when the fighting starts? What do you do about it? Does one parent do more for the children? Why do you think this happens? Are there simple changes you can make that would help? Tell me your thoughts!