NANA SAYS HOW TO BE A HANDS ON GRANDPARENT

Some grandparents brag about the number of grandchildren they have, give a kiss, take a photo then that's the end of it. Being hands on means being available and around to have a relationship. Having a relationship is tiring and sometimes work. Being close to grandchildren means there may not be much respect until it is earned. Otherwise, one gets treated like a parent. The child knows you will love them no matter what so do not have to listen or do what is asked! Coming to Nana's house means testing the rules. Establishing boundaries can be difficult. Each home has different expectations. Nana's house is laid out in a way that children can rule in a circle and so they do. Insisting to eat at the table and not taking food in other rooms is a constant discussion. Not allowed at home but somehow come to Nana's and let's try to see what can be done. Sitting and eating so no choking occurs is a constant safety discussion too. Granpa does the cooking so is always concerned about healthy eating. But there are lots of snacks healthy and otherwise. Cookies are okay. Relationships take all forms and actions. Beimg a good part of the grandchildren's lives is very rewarding too. Hugs and kisses. Excitement to be seen on an arrival. Wanting to come for sleepovers. Knowing one is loved brings incredible joy! Stopping and really listening to what is said. Being interested in all the activities. Trying to go to events. The best part is just having grandchildren in one's life. Hands on is exhausting so maybe it is time for a nap!