Inspiration for this blog came from my cousin Roy. His daily reflections of the events in his life have been thoughtful and interesting. Family, friends, colleagues are welcome to read my blog.

Monday, October 20, 2014


The Canadian geese take a little break from the flight south for the winter. Flocking up, they make for wonderful Fall images. Due to the warmer weather in cities, some actually stay around for the winter months. They can look good but for most beaches and homeowners they are very messy and dirty. Be sure to duck if a flock goes over!


Can you hear the swishing of the leaves as you walk along this lane? Do you feel the cool breeze on your face? As you gather some leaves to press in a book for a  project or just to have as a souvenir of the day, does the texture stimulate your hands? What do you smell?  Fall with its simple beauty is a regular phenomenon in Canada. Here in Ontario there is a joy of a simple country drive to see the colours- the reds, the oranges, the yellows- as the deciduous trees lose their leaves and sleep for the winter.

The green coniferous trees keep their green as markers on the woods' edge. A photo can not capture the feelings when viewed live but it tries.

Friday, October 17, 2014


No trespassing! Conjures up lots of thoughts and images. It is like telling someone strongly, it belongs to me and stay off. Sometimes we are asked questions about ourselves and really want to say, it's none of your business! Perhaps wearing a sign- no trespassing would suffice. The question I usually want to ask- is why do you need to know that about me!  The whole gossips thing!! Never liked it as a child and even less now!! I find people will tell me what they want. Being an open book with the world is not always a good thing. Yes I know there are many that like to brag about how much money they have, what is in their bank account, how expensive their items like clothes, cars and furniture cost them and their friends, family, relationship is the best and so wonderful. Do we really want to know about some one's sex life!! Yeah, you get it. Having confidants in our lives are necessary. Good to have friends or family that all can be shared with them as needed. Parents can keep some information private from children and vice versa- especially older children. Actually most of my private information is not really that interesting. I don't call myself Boring Barb for nothing!!

Thursday, October 16, 2014


Feeling good about oneself brings a degree of good self-esteem. Finding happiness in life can often be connected to things! The - if only I had more money I would be happy!! Then why are there so many people with money bored and snorting drugs to be happy and people with ordinary jobs and an hourly wage actually enjoying life. Look at the grandparent in the park with a favourite grandchild! Look at the person jogging or cycling or doing a dance- happiness and joy. There are days I feel damn lucky to be alive. Recently walking to work, with the maple leaves on the sidewalk, I see pleasurable images, wishing I had my camera to capture them. I hear birds sing and duck when flocks of geese fly over honking. Enjoying the simple moments of life. Sure I buy lottery tickets and would love to win a big jackpot but if I don't my life will go on! Oh I sound like a Celine Dion song!! With all the bad news in the world, I still try to believe in the good things about life and people. I want to believe the conflict areas in the world will get the support they need and well the people can be resilient and carry on!! The question- is there something I can do to make the world a better place? Aging puts some things in perspective. One can be bitter about the life given or be thankful for the opportunity to keep on ticking!! One of the most difficult things for me is to listen to the 30 somethings and 40 somethings talk about life and what is important! I really can not relate anymore as I have done that and been there. So listening is good! Glad to be well enough to enjoy life. Coming to terms with the fact that many things I wanted in life did not happen but other things did!!  Yes wishing I had my camera on me all the time because I see and hear many simple things in life that bring me pleasure!!

Wednesday, October 15, 2014


Picking the right Halloween costume for your little ones can be fun or stressful. I like the fun part. There are so many premade ones to buy or order. Superheroes to princesses to whatever you want. I used to make the costumes for my kids. It was fun. Putting together an outfit can use many items around the house. One could analyse the costume a child picks. It tells something about character and interests. Remember Halloween for children is one of the most important events outside Christmas. So what would you like to wear. I know every adult is really a kid at heart.


October 15th has been designated as a day to remember those who have experienced a pregnancy and infant loss. Although the life has been so short, the loss to the couple and family has devastating effects. If you have experienced such a loss, you are remembered. If you know someone who has experienced such a loss, let the person talk or find a way to honour the loss. The little ones are gone but not forgotten. I have never known a woman whether 25 or 95, when asked " how many children do you have?", will always mention the ones she lost- miscarriage, stillborn, infant death. It does not matter to the woman. A loss is a loss! If needed, you can find a support group or agency in your area that support such losses. Or email me- abdm@rogers.com and I can provide some supports for you.

Tuesday, October 14, 2014


With all the leftover Thanksgiving turkey and the trimmings, it brought to mind some thoughts on life. So much goes into preparing for a large family feast, the shopping, the cleaning, the cooking, the serving and the cleanup. Like life, we busy ourselves with so many activities like saving for a trip, paying off a mortgage, downsizing- well you get the picture. Lots of work and activity then when all is said and done- time to stop and reap the harvest so to say. Enjoy all the hard work. Enjoy the leftovers- our leftovers. Time to breath after all the preparation. Feeling the muscles in the body from the scrubbing and stretching that comes with cleaning. Eating pie for lunch- especially pumpkin pie with whipped cream. I know there are people that would say retirement feels a lot like that!! The leftovers from a life of hard work. As we all know, leftovers are quite good if prepared the way we like them.