Holding on to past grudges, anger, things, well you get the picture as the list can be endless keeps us stuck. Keeps us not moving forward.
I read something. We can forgive but we do not have to forget. A wonderful idea and concept. But it is difficult to do.
We all have moments in our lives where we have been hurt or treated very unfairly. Some to the point of abuse and trauma.
For some those moments can come back as PTSD. To others being near the person or persons who hurt can bring up anxiety and memories. Some may need therapy. Some may use the strength of self, family and friends.
So how to let go.
It starts with acknowledgement. What are we holding on to?
Bring it out into the open!! Make it a manageable memory.
Examine it. Like in Narrative Therapy. The problem is the problem not the person. So the problem is the problem not the thing. The problem of not letting go.
Oh so it is just a thing. Like in decluttering- keep, sell, donate, throw out. So choose.
Remember it is the past not the present. Why hold on to it in the present moment? What to do with the memory? How to take the emotions out of negative ones? Recording it as history in our life may work. A part of it not all of it.
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