THE IVORY TOWER-WHO WORKS HARDER THE BOSS OR THE WORKER

Do you like the expression that some people live in an ivory tower is it ivy tower? The bosses do not know what the workers are doing. Shows like undercover boss are fun because they show the bosses trying to do the simple job that is not so simple of the employees in their companies. But people that run places have huge responsibilities. Accountable to funders, investors and the general public, when the little cog in the wheel breaks it affects the whole company or business. I see it every day in my job- someone does not smile, does not have the right answer, does not jump when a family member demands- well you get the picture. A complaint or poor patient satisfaction! The best workplaces whatever they are have the best teams. People doing their own job well and having the back of their colleagues as well as the boss! Keeping the leaders in the loop about important issues like workplace safety, discrimination, harassment, others not pulling their weight etc. Along with the boss working at the worker level, it would be fun to see a worker trying to run the whole show. Have you ever been somewhere where a person had a promotion and the old buddies now are complaining and demanding to the new boss? In one of my management positions, it happened to a new supervisor who discovered that very notion! My advice was if you are damned if you do and damned if you don't then just do! Workplaces can be friendly and efficient but no one goes to work to make friends with everyone. Getting along, respect and mainly well- earning a pay cheque are important! Actually respecting everyone's jobs and what is contributed to the overall place goes without saying. Stop looking at what someone does and think- that person does not work as hard as I do! Take me for example, I just do. I don't grumble, complain, constantly talk about how busy I am and how tired I am so of course it may look like well I am not working as hard as the others. While someone is grumbling about the workload, I am quietly just doing what I am paid to do! Like most workplaces some days are busy nuts and other days have a manageable flow. Of course the Friday before a long weekend is always busy with at least one crisis or two. So looking at that tower remember someone is assessing the pay rates, benefits and vacation complement so just do and act like you really do deserve more!

BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU ASK FOR

Or pray for. I remember a fellow colleague who hated the boss and was so glad when the person was let go. I looked at her and said be careful what you ask for! She was perplexed! Sometimes and often you get what you asked for but not what you wanted. What do I mean! Well the boss that was let go was actually better than the next boss. She was so intent on wanting the one person to go that she did not even think she could get a worse boss. If you pray for a miracle, save my loved one's life! Did you mean at any cost? Many years ago, I was counselling a family member who had prayed for just that. Her father was in a coma, indefinitely. She questioned, why did I ask for the miracle. This is not my father anymore. She received what she prayed for. Often we really do not have control over many events in our lives. Irrational, impulsive thinking and requests can get us results that were not what we really wanted! You want the richest husband. Did you mean the man who was never home and always at the office? You want the smartest child. Did you mean the child that can not make friends but is the smartest? The list could go on. Can we ask for guidance to make the right choices for us? Can we ask for patience and understanding? Have you ever regretted asking for something and it is exactly what you received but not what you needed or wanted?